Ocasio-Cortez Rewrites the Rules
The latest shot heard ’round the world came not from a gun but from a syringe of fertility hormones belonging to Representative Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez.
Last weekend on Instagram, the congresswoman announced her plan to freeze her eggs and document the process. Ms. Ocasio-Cortez, seated on a sofa, showed the array of medical supplies that she will need to prepare her body for an egg retrieval. Cautioning viewers not to “be weird about this,” she pulled up her white top, swabbed her bare abdomen with alcohol, took a deep breath and injected a fold of flesh she pinched with her fingers. “That wasn’t so bad,” she told us with visible relief.
This was a revolutionary moment.
It’s not at all unusual that Ms. Ocasio-Cortez, a 36-year-old professional woman, might make this choice. And it’s not surprising that a politician as media savvy as she is might talk about that choice online. Last year Representative Sara Jacobs did so, too, documenting her own egg-freezing experience.
But heavens, seeing a public figure in such a vulnerable, private moment — literally baring her underbelly — still carries quite a jolt. And the reality of Ms. Ocasio-Cortez’s huge public following only intensifies this effect. By now, millions of people surely have seen her egg-freezing videos.
Many applauded her transparency and bravery. Others insisted that her private life should be kept private. And some right-wing commentators seized on the occasion to proclaim their pronatalist bona fides. The conservative blogger Matt Walsh lashed out on X, for example, calling Ms. Ocasio-Cortez’s decision “baffling” and boasting that he would have kids in their 20s “by the time I turn 50,” dismissing later-in-life pregnancy as “backwards and ridiculous.”
By documenting her egg-freezing process, Ms. Ocasio-Cortez showed herself seizing control of her reproductive life while leaving the topic of marriage out of the equation. She has made her body public but offered no comment on her domestic situation — a reversal of the usual order.
But she is doing more than that. Ms. Ocasio-Cortez has ushered in a new era — call it the new age of young female leadership. And she is doing it in conjunction with an oblique suggestion on the ABC Sunday show “This Week” about a 2028 White House run. (She said she hasn’t “ruled out the possibility.”) On Sunday Ms. Ocasio-Cortez documented herself administering another hormone injection in the ABC green room. (She brought her supplies to the TV studio in a lunch box.) This took place against a backdrop of an enormous picture of the Capitol. The connection could not be any clearer.
Ms. Ocasio-Cortez is getting ahead of all the skeptical questions she rightly anticipates regarding her suitability as a candidate for the highest office, such as: How could we let a childless woman in her late 30s be president? Isn’t she likely to get pregnant during her first term, when she’d be between the ages of 38 and 42? And given that, wouldn’t she be unable to perform her political duties? By attempting to postpone motherhood, Ms. Ocasio-Cortez is telling us not to worry; she’s thought of everything. She grasps the concern and is addressing it. Never mind that many men who have recently run for president have not provided answers to questions about whether their aging bodies will leave them fit for leadership throughout their term.
Like millions of other women her age, Ms. Ocasio-Cortez is grappling with the impossible goal and financial burden of having it all. To the women negotiating that tight window of time between their 30s and early 40s, when they want to build both careers and families, she is saying: I am one of you. Feminism has done little to make this balancing act any easier. Despite all the rosy claims to the contrary, the burdens of family still fall disproportionately on women.